Somewhere down there we all feel that we need that special one , who takes care of us , who understands us , who listens to us deeply and guides and fights with us . So we have crushes , best friends , romantic flings , “ serious ” relationships etc. If we really like someone , we tend to get too involved with them . We find ways to be with them . Sooner or later , if we realise that it isn’t working , we feel ditched !
In today’s era , where everything is so paced fast , one should not mourn over relations which didn’t work out . Moving on , would be to do a good turn . It is flesh and blood to involve only heart when it comes to love , but one should also involve little brains and some logic while citing your love . One should always opt for a partner , who respects you for the way you are , accepts you the kind of person and values your characteristics and your background .
Gone are the days when people used to “ sacrifice “ in love . In today’s modern era , its all about demands and wants on both the sides .
Hence , if you have been through a heartbreak , always be positive about it , as they say “ Love has birth , growth , death and re-birth “. Here are some pointers which could help you move on .
ACCEPT IT :-
Accepting and digesting the hard fact that it is all over would be the first and the foremost step . Take the break-up as an casual event in life and do not waste days and years and think over the same think repeatedly . It is very natural to for you to go through pain , sadness , anger , bitterness and jealously . Be with these feelings and you will see how to curb them because that’s the way the cookie crumbles .
MAKE YOURSELF FEEL GOOD :-
Anger and depression have the tendency to get fixed into your mind . This will always direct you to think about it . So , indulge into the activities which make you feel good . For instance , listen to music ( not the weeping types ) , dance ( even if you are bad at it ) , meditate , go for walks , socialize , hangout with friends , read , become a movie buff and so on ….. Do the stuff which require your complete focus and involvement .
HAVE A GOOD COMPANY :-
This matters a lot . Choose people around you who understand you well and can support you . Hangout with your mates and pals , this won’t make you feel lonely . Whenever you find yourself to be a loner , don’t be with it , that would make the situation only worse , talk to someone instead !
TIME TO ANALYSE :-
Analyse the factors which brought your relation down . Learn from your mistakes , so that you don’t commit them in future . You can talk about this with someone you feel comfortable with , or you can think over this about yourself .
VALUE YOURSELF :-
Many a times it so happens that the break up leaves you shattered and lowers your confidence . You might think twice before you confide into someone . Your self-esteem decreases . There was this case that I witnessed where in the guy dumped the girl . And the girl thought that she was ditched because she was dark skinned . This lowered her self – confidence and there was a room created for poor perceptions about self . Therefore , no matter what value yourself ! If you don’t value yourself , how can you expect others to value you ?