How to beat loneliness blues?

Aristotle rightly said that man is a social animal. We all try to fit in a certain group and enjoy a healthy social life. Some of us restrict our friends’ circle, whereas others like to explore. Many of us are hungry for new friends. All of us, at some or the other point get scared of being side tracked. And at some point of life, we have all experienced loneliness. Loneliness can be the hardest phase to deal with. But beating it is not impossible. All you need to do is face it and find solutions.


Keeping yourself busy is the first step to beat loneliness. Being busy will help you stay distracted from all the negative thoughts. Find out chores and do the self assignments. Set a goal and stay focused. But remember not to prolong this. Being busy 24*7 will have adverse effects on your health.

Find out the cause behind loneliness. Finding the cause of the problem makes it a lot easier to solve it.

Keep the liveliness around you all the time. Even if you have no one to accompany you, set out alone. Visit museums, concerts, art galleries and other such places. You might end up meeting someone there.

Be the one to approach. Others can be shy too. So don’t always wait for them to come to you. Instead strike up a conversation with a smile.

Join hobby classes. Take up dancing, learning a new musical instrument or a foreign language. This has a double folded advantage. You’ll not only learn something new, but also meet new people and strike new friendships. Hobby class is a perfect place to meet new and single people.

Reconnect with your old friends. Make it a point to meet them at least once a month. If meeting them regularly seems impossible, get them online or catch up with them on phone. But make sure not to lose touch.

Don’t limit your friends’ circle to your street or school friends. Vouch yourself to talk to someone new every month. Not everyone might be interested, but one out of twelve persons is sure to reciprocate.

Invite friends over. You can rekindle old and new friendships this way. Just one mere dose of gossip can be enough to keep you recharged for the rest of the day.

Be there for your friends in their sad times. You can cook a dinner for your friends or offer to babysit for them. It can be this simple. This is a way to let your friends know that you’re genuinely there for them when they need you.

Remind your friends how important they are for you. Make a personal birthday call; listen to them patiently when they whine. Knowing what you did for them, will surely make them be there for you in your lonely time.

Ask your friends to be there for you when you need them. Do not hesitate. Reach out to them to ask for their advice.

Spend time with your family and relatives. Call up your cousins and arrange get-togethers. It just takes one phone call to arrange for dinner at a restaurant. Your cousins can turn out to be best of your friends. Take some time out for your grandparents. They are not here forever, so cherish all the moments while they are around.

Make one personal call every day. Share your life stories with your friends and listen to their stories. This will refresh you like nothing else.

Consider volunteering in organizations, orphanages and old age homes. This will help you have a small share of contribution towards the society and also make you forget about your own misery.

Get a pet. Pets are a great companion. A research has revealed that families with pets experience lesser levels of stress in comparison with the families without pets. This way, you can be friends with other pet lovers as well.

Join forums. Weekly forums like a book club will help you get rid of the loneliness pangs. You’ll read books and meet new people free of cost. There are many loners who participate in such forums. Such people are also seeking new friends, so you’ll not only benefit yourself but also others.

Sometimes it’s okay to embrace momentary solitude. Watch the sunsets, read a book in your bed or take a walk on a quiet street all by yourself.

Life is too short to be sad. Some day or the other you are sure to feel lonely. But that is not the end of everything. Learn to enjoy little joys of life. Take a deep breath and think what can be done to improve the situation.



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