Efficient ways of dealing with criticism and rejection

We all will most probably admit that we hate it when someone tells us how wrong or awful we are at the things we do. Even so, irrespective of whether we agree or not, deep down we all hate criticism, we all fear rejection, we all fear loneliness. The consequences of being rejected can be so extreme, that such individuals often indulge in harming themselves physically. This is because at times, physical pain helps to forget the emotional pain. True that the agony and stress levels caused due to rejection and criticism could be ceaseless, but as they say, life does not stop. Every problem has a solution, and so do these negative emotions. Stress management classes and professional counseling sessions have proven to be highly beneficial for people undergoing depression due to criticism and rejection. However, many individuals hesitate to seek professional help.

For all such people, who consider themselves to be losers and loners, the tips mentioned below will certainly be of great help.


Deal with Criticism:

Try to find out the reason behind the criticism. Analyze the problem and act on it. You never know, you might end up benefitting from it.

Always respond calmly. Hyperventilating will only make you sadder and will worsen the situation.

Avoid being defensive. Let people say whatever they want to. Ultimately, how you feel about yourself matters more that what others have to say about you.

Vent your feelings out to a close friend or a family member. Once you speak your heart out, you will sleep like a baby.

Never ever let criticism get you down. Take out the advice, and ignore the rest. This will not only help you to improve your self confidence, but will also make you a good listener.

Deal with Rejection:

Firstly, start being yourself. Remember Lady Gaga’s words- ‘just love yourself and you are set!!!’ How can you expect others to love you if you don’t love yourself?

Challenge yourself to tolerate others being hostile towards you. This will only help you become stronger.

Do not run away from rejection. Instead do something about it. Problems do not get solved by running away. If someone rejects your feeling, that doesn’t mean it is the end of the world.

At times, it’s totally alright to be upset. If talking about your rejection fears seems uneasy and uncomfortable, you always have an option of penning it down. Remember, a paper is more patient than a person. 

Indulge in some recreational activity. For example, you can learn to play guitar, learn a new language o do volunteer work. This will keep you engaged and distract you from the negative emotions.

Finally, maintain a healthy lifestyle. A fit body will help you have a fit mind.

Remember, there is no such thing as a loser. It is all about believing yourself. Help yourself and get rid of all the fears. Face criticism and rejection boldly. Only facing the fears will destroy them. Be happy. Just the mere attempt of trying to be happy is enough to create further blissful moments. Beat the depression. Don’t walk briskly or bang the doors hard. Put up a smile on your face and set yourself free.  We get life only once and we owe it to ourselves to be happy.



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